Dear Editor: The justifiable outrage over the young women being sent home from Menihek High School has brought to light a thought-to-be-extinct bias.
We still hold women responsible to act as the police force of human sexuality. Are any men embarrassed by this?
I expect there are; most of the ones I know would be. To hold women responsible for the behaviours of men is about as paternalistic as it comes! You poor dumb schmcuks can’t be held accountable for your own emotions and behaviours so the girls should behave in way that manages this. Please!
This degrades men as much as it objectifies women.
There is also a subtext to this event: human sexuality is inherently a bad thing and must be held at bay by any means possible.
Sexuality is as natural a part of the human condition as walking.
Can we not admit this to our young people and stop sending messages that it is inherently bad? It is not controlled by morals or religion or laws. It is genetically encoded in our DNA. It is not a bad thing.
If the starting point, in teaching our children about sexuality, begins with a message that sex is an important part of a complex life, it is not bad but needs to be treated with a level of respect and a great deal of knowledge. We may just reduce the spread of sexuality transmitted diseases, unexpected pregnancy, and the completely unnecessary angst of knowing that you belong to the LGBT community.
All sexuality, regardless of gender preference, is a natural part of life.
Thousands of years of moral preaching, inane laws and layers of guilt has not stopped anyone from sexual experiment. It has however contributed to emotional anxiety, illness (sometimes fatal) unexpected pregnancy and all the costly outcomes of the aforementioned.
Maybe the Menihek event will become the much-needed catalyst for us to rethink our position on what is good, what is bad and who is responsible for policing the act that creates us all.
We teach our children to walk, but we also teach them not to walk in front of cars and trains.
Donna Thistle, Steady Brook