“In 2013, when Norma started locking herself out in the cold weather and walking down the street not knowing where she was going, her family knew she needed more care,” MacPhee wrote.
It took three years, three long-term care homes and a year living with her daughter’s family for Tedford to find a home. "Mom" became "Norma." because she didn't remember she was someone's mother.
“She’s 80 per cent the patient, and 20 per cent of the time my mom,” MacPhee said at the time.
Today, Tedford is in a seniors’ home near her daughter, but MacPhee’s caregiving is not over.
“Norma cannot ask for what she needs. She cannot ring a buzzer, “MacPhee explains. “She can’t holler to a nurse because she has forgotten how to ask for anything. For three years I have been her voice, trying to advocate for what I feel she needs and deserves.”
Tam and Norma’s story is one of many.
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